One of my goals for the month of October has been to leave the house for non-routine or non-errand-related reasons at least once per week. This week, that reason was an affirmation circle for black women, put on by an organization called
Dear Black Women. It took place yesterday, at one woman's home in Detroit. Each participant was encouraged to write a letter of affirmation to herself and submit it to DBW beforehand, and then we spent most of the circle reading the letters out loud together. The letters are allowed to be anonymous, but I included my name in mine since what I wrote about was so specific to me. Here's my letter, which I wrote a week ago. I hope that someone can draw some reassurance from it.
Saturday, October 13th,
2018
Dear Danielle,
By the time you read this out loud again, it will be October
20th, which is your yearly personal day of gratitude. I don’t
believe it’s a coincidence that you found out a week ago that Dear Black
Women’s affirmation circle would be taking place in Detroit on the very same
day. Given this auspicious occasion, I, your week-ago self, would like to tell
you all the reasons why I’m proud of you today.
I’m proud of you for leaving the house and coming to this event.
You are very good at hiding, and it can be tempting to flake on opportunities
like this, but I’m glad that you didn’t.
I’m proud of you for all the ways you tried to both
challenge and stay true to yourself this year. Even if you didn’t realize that
that’s what you were doing at the time.
You started traveling again (with the help of some very
generous friends), to places you hadn’t envisioned yourself going to this time
last year. And those travels taught you so many valuable lessons, namely:
things can be easy (they don’t always have to be hard); it’s okay for you to
rely on and collaborate with people more; everything doesn’t have to be an
achievement or accomplishment (you’re allowed to do things simply because you
want to); and peace of mind is immeasurably more precious than you think.
You finally performed again.
You started a new project, which would’ve seemed absurd and
impossible to you just six months ago. You not only started it, but you’ve been
so consistent with it! And sure, it’s been teaching you a lot of new skills,
but you’ve also developed a practice of communicating with people more in a
less guarded way, lifting people up, and expressing more gratitude. How cool is
that?
And on top of all that, you made a really big, really difficult
decision this year which you’d been agonizing over for a really long time. It’s
ushered more uncertainty but also more hope into your life, and I know how much
you needed to be able to wake up in the morning and feel hopeful again. I know
how terrified you were to make that decision, but you made it, and that’s
probably what I’m proudest of you for.
It’s not over for you. Nothing has been wasted. Think of all
the things and people that re-entered your life this year that you didn’t even
think to ask for, and yet you received them anyway. You’re going to keep
growing, exploring, and letting passion and curiosity guide you closer to more
of the things and people that you love.
There are probably some things that I’m forgetting; you know
how you are reluctant to give yourself props. And I cried a lot while writing
this letter, so I really hope you did make it to the affirmation circle so that
you can share this with yourself and the sisters there. But anyway, I just want
to end this by saying you are loved, you are a good person, you are doing your
best, and I wouldn’t want to be anyone else but you right now.
Love,
Yourself
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