- Pay attention to those moments when you (re)act out of fear. When this happens you operate on a limited set of options; it really shortchanges you and robs you of opportunities and potentially valuable experiences.
- Fear keeps us small.
- Embrace the things inside you that are desperately fighting to get out.
- What matters most is how you feel and think about yourself. The notion that what people say about you defines you is a lie.
- Eventually you'll get to a point where you'll want your insides to match your outsides, and you'll do something about it.
- Recognize and remind yourself that you have something(s) extraordinary to offer this world.
- Stop identifying yourself as "fat." That's an old word. Let's use new words!
- Setbacks, not making the best choices, and falling back on old habits aren't necessarily mistakes, and you don't need to beat yourself up about them. You're just a human being trying to figure out how to live life. You just need time and practice.
- It can be a great compliment to others to let them be there for you.
Thursday, January 16, 2014
Sessions with Sue 4
This evening was our first session of 2014, and we talked mostly about fear. Though I still have my down moments (or days), I'd say that my general attitude about myself and life has improved considerably since we've started. But at a deeper level, I still struggle with fear and self-loathing. Too often I allow led me to stifle myself in a number of ways. As usual, here are some points from our conversation: