Saturday, February 15, 2014

Sessions with Sue 8

Unlike last week I wasn't able to make it through the session without crying yesterday. This week  hasn't been a bad week or anything; I was just really frustrated because certain things didn't go as I'd planned and hoped. I often have this problem, especially when I get excited about something or look forward to things going a certain way. So we mostly talked about that, and my habit of being really hard on myself and others:
  • You focus so much on what didn't happen, that you're not able to embrace the good in what did happen.
  • When you discount what people say when they compliment you, it's like you're saying, "You don't know what you're talking about." So you may think you're trying to be humble or modest, but you're actually putting them down.
  • Disappointment. Things don't turn out the way you thought they would, so you feel like you were tricked into believing in something or someone.
  • But even if something or someone doesn't turn out as expected, that doesn't mean that it wasn't worth it.
  • Because you're so critical of yourself, you are also hard on people around you; once you become nicer to yourself, you'll be able to be more tender and forgiving toward others.
  • There's nothing wrong with having high expectations for yourself and being disciplined and self-motivated. You just need that extra piece where if and when you fall short (which you inevitably will, since you're human), you don't fall back onto self-loathing but instead are able to forgive yourself and accept how things happened.
  • Acceptance of your humanness. You can be exceptional, but all the while you're still human. And so is everyone around you.

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